Hi Mystery Girl, I have watched all the videos in the media section. I was just wondering what backfiring was because my lover broke up with a girl in January, then he came back to me, then left my town to go back with her and now is with another girl. So I thought that may be a kind of backfiring. I'd never wish upon someone that they have a miserable life. I don't hold grudges ☺
Usually, when you let negative thoughts come in to play, that's when you start to see things "backfire".
You reap the negativity that you sow. That's why staying positive is such an important part. Not obsessing over it either. It's hard not to do, but that's why keeping yourself busy and trying to focus on the good things for YOU will do the most work and help. Don't give up; just give yourself more time.
Try to live as happily as possible, I know it is difficult sometimes; I struggle daily, but you find little ways to do stuff; and that's the important part.
In the mean time, dismiss all negative thoughts and rebuke the bad thoughts that come to your mind ASAP. THEY WILL DROWN YOU and they will turn things bad.
I'd even recommend doing a cleanse, a spiritual cleanse, or maybe trying to do a chakra cleanse.
Do a cleanse for the 12 chakras instead of the 7 though; that works better for Twin Flames and soul mates.
Love and light,
Phoebe